‘IF THE SHOE FITS, WEAR IT!’ … IS AN OLD QUOTE, WITH A WISE MEANING! ARE YOU WEARING OLD, WARN OUT SHOES THAT NO LONGER FIT YOUR STYLE? HAS THIS CAUSED YOU TO LOSE YOUR SMILE! MOVE INTO THE NEW YEAR – WITH A NEW YOU – AND HAPPY FEET! I was INSPIRED with this THOUGHT, after LISTENING to the song by ALABAMA – CHRISTMAS SHOES FOR MY MOM. First, I was feeling DEPRESSED about it. THEN, I remembered a pair of TAP SHOES my dad and I ‘MADE HAPPEN’ for my mom. I invite you to read my narrative, below. … THEN – REALIZE … WHAT LIFE GOALS or INTENTIONS might YOU have ABANDONED or LEFT BEHIND that you STILL HAVE TIME .. to ACHIEVE … to make your HAPPY FEET MOVE FORWARD … in NEW SHOES that FIT YOUR NEW STYLE – MOVING FORWARD WITH A SMILE – instead of RESENTMENT? MAKE IT HAPPEN! MAKE IT SO! Ha Ha Helen – Outlook Shift Engineer!
MY MOM’S LIFE GOALS AND A PAIR OF TAP DANCING SHOES:
SHOES FOR MY MOM … my story. I was listening to the song by #ALABAMA ‘Can I buy these #shoes‘ – a heartwarming #Christmas song. MY STORY: I have shared many horrific happenings within my home and life; growing up – some dealing with my mom’s struggles with #alcohol and #prescription drugs – horrific episodes as a 4 year old – looking into those blurred – drunk eyes – stumbling walking – having to handle a lot … myself – at an early age… this – continuing into early adulthood – facing that monster – drunk – ripping my soul out in the early hours of the morning – … I am #GRATEFUL I got to attend Adult Children of Alcoholics meetings and other #counseling sources to feel, heal and move forward.
I can tell you, there was ANOTHER side to my mother. A #Catholic woman/nurse who wanted to marry a #Protestant doctor – not have kids – be a Tap Dancing Movie Star like Shirley Temple, etc. Instead, her religion required her to marry someone Catholic – and her Hungarian Heritage – as the oldest of 4 children – born to Hungarian immigrants .. had her marry a BLUE COLLAR, HUNGARIAN MAN – who had her birth 7 children – with her days being spent in the kitchen, at the stove – cooking – making lunches for my dad’s varying long work shifts at a local Steel Mill. Hardworking parents, they were. They provided meals and shelter for those 7 kids – while the emotional needs and psychological needs were a different story – there are many sides to all issues.
In my early THIRTIES … I was attending the HEALING SOURCES I had discovered. I was dating a man from State College. One day, when visiting him, I came across a PAIR OF TAP CLEATS at a CAPEZIO shoe store – to be attached to shoes! I KNEW my mom’s frustration – with her life. I thought: PERHAPS THESE TAPS on a pair of SHOES will help? I bought the taps and took them back home.
My creative, intelligent, researching dad – was able to ATTACH them to a pair of SHOES my mom had. After years of alcohol and tobacco use – and being into menopause … and also drained from her father’s death – her oldest daughter being brain damaged by a drunk driver (the irony) – dealing with seizures and hellish home moments .. and also becoming the care giver for her dimentia-ridden mom …
– one SPRING DAY – SHE PUT ON THE TAP SHOES my dad and I had produced for her. We had a SUPER 8 MOVIE CAMERA. MY MOM STOOD ON THE SIDEWALK ENTRANCE TO OUR HOME – AND DID SEVERAL MOMENTS OF TAP DANCING … before being exhausted. IT WAS HER SHINING MOMENT! SHE FINALLY GOT TO BE SHIRLEY TEMPLE for a FEW MOMENTS at least!
In June 2012 – when she passed away at the age of 86 … my youngest sister had a burial outfit picked out for her corpse … but wasn’t sure WHICH SHOES to send along to the Funeral Home. I instantly replied: HER TAP SHOES! My youngest sister said: THAT’S RIGHT! I’LL SEND THE TAP SHOES!
My mom had passed away around 2:00 am – on June 29th – during a BRIGHT LIGHTENING – RAIN POUNDED – THUNDER STORM .. it was PERFECT! The RAIN sounded like TAP DANCING! The LIGHTNING was like STAGE LIGHTS flashing … camera flashes … the TAP SHOES the BIG FINALE moment of her life was PERFECT! Just like in this song about a small boy wanting to do something for his mom .. buying her shoes to look nice when she meets Jesus … MY MOM IS FREELY TAP DANCING in #HEAVEN .. forever more … her life goal … to be on stage.
When it rains a WONDERFUL – TAP DANCING PITTER PATTER … may you think of HELEN MARGARET MOHAR-SZOLLOSY (the initials spell HMMS … hummmmms … sings … taps … a SUPER STAR SET OF INITIALS! PERFECT!
NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS IN LIFE … THERE ARE ALWAYS MANY SIDES TO SITUATIONS … FEEL … HEAL … FACE… AND REPLACE .. I like to say in my motivational speaking.
My motto: LIVE LIFE! LAUGH OFTEN! comes from my life experiences … and seeing ALL THE SIDES of the struggles and talents of my parent’s lives. LIVE LIFE! LAUGH OFTEN! and GET YOURSELF A GREAT PAIR OF DANCING SHOES!
This is the link to the ALABAMA song about: Christmas Shoes for my Mother https://youtu.be/veKuMljSjD0